Wedding Planning Tips
Make sure to confirm any other wedding details (e.g., venue, location, website) you plan to include on your Save the Date Card or Magnet.
If planning a theme-based wedding, use your Save the Date to inform guests so they can share in the theme and dress appropriately.
Tight budget? Read these seven money-saving tips to save big on your Save the Date order.
Find out the names of unknown guests (i.e., significant others, children) so that you can be as personal as possible when addressing invitations.
When writing out your wedding invitations, double-check the spelling of each guest’s name and title.
Devise a system for keeping track of the RSVPs as they start to come in.
Before you send out your Invitations and Enclosure Cards, double-check your directions to the ceremony and reception.
When placing your invitation order, include an extra 25 invitations to account for last-minute invites, keepsakes, and/or mistakes.
The invitation sets the style and tone of your wedding, so allow yourself plenty of time to research trends, brainstorm ideas, and explore invitation package options.
A great source of inspiration is reading wedding blogs like Truly Engaging to see how other couples have personalized their wedding invitations.
Coordinate your Save the Dates, Wedding Invitations, Wedding Programs, Wedding Favors and Thank Yous together for a completely polished look.
Add harmonious depth to your Invitations using coordinating Embellishments such as Envelope Liners, Vellum, Vellum Bands, and Labels & Seals.
Personalize your wedding favors to reflect your personality, wedding formality, and theme.
Remember that wedding favors serve as a “thank you” to your guests, so select meaningful favors that express your appreciation for their presence.
From personalized Favor Boxes to Gift Tags, use your Wedding Favors as an opportunity to share your favorite photos, love quote, or new address.
Using honeymoon pictures for Thank You Cards is a fun way to thank guests while giving them a keepsake of your new life together.
If you’re planning on using any wedding or honeymoon photos for your Thank Yous, develop and decide your photo(s) as quickly as possible so you can be timely with your Thank Yous.
Set up a comfortable spot in your new home to write out your thank you notes, having a certain goal to reach each day.
When writing your Thank Yous, give yourself plenty of time so that you can craft a personalized and thoughtful note to each gift giver.
Instead of writing alone or separately, consider writing your Thank Yous together as a couple. This “together time” is a great way to bond as newlyweds and to lay down a foundation of shared gratitude for your marriage.
Coordinate your wedding look by matching your Thank You Cards to your Save the Dates and Invitations.
Thank You recipients extend beyond those who gave you physical gifts. Remember to send notes of gratitude to anyone who provided a service to you (e.g., hostesses, wedding coordinator, officiate, maid of honor, best man), and any wedding professionals who exceeded your expectations.
Getting good customer service is more likely achieved when the bridal shops are least busy. Consider going out on a weekday or weeknight when there are fewer crowds.
Use a vinyl tape measure to get accurate measurements for your gown.
Try on all the undergarments for the wedding dress to get a true understanding of the feel and weight of your bridal dress ensemble.
Make sure your wedding dress contract states everything that you have purchased, details of the dress itself (including manufacturer), alteration fees, any hidden fees, and a guaranteed delivery date.
Set your maid or matron of honor apart by featuring her in a different color dress or carrying different flowers than the other bridesmaids.
Bridesmaids come in all shapes and sizes. Consider letting them choose their own dress cut/style or color, but within the same formality or general color scheme.
Order all the bridesmaids’ dresses at the same time. Ask the shop attendant about ordering them from the same dye lot for maximum color accuracy.
Make sure your wedding hair complements—rather than clashes or competes with—the neckline of your dress. Experiment with hairstyles while wearing a shirt with a similar neckline.
Accessorizing your hair with headpieces like veils, tiaras, flower studs, and jeweled hairpins is a fun way to personalize your look to match your wedding theme or personal style.
When deciding on makeup, consider the weather and season of your wedding. If you are having a summer or tropical destination wedding, use makeup that is waterproof, lightweight and has built-in SPF.
Whether you are hiring a professional or doing your own hair and makeup, make sure to do at least one full makeup and hair rehearsal to ensure you achieve the look you want for your wedding.
To ensure your hair and skin look their happiest (and healthiest!) on the Big Day, remember to eat healthy, get plenty of rest, and nourish your hair and skin with regular trims, conditioning treatments, skin moisturizers, and SPF products.
As you create a list of potential wedding vendors (e.g., photographer, caterer, florist), start with vendors recommended by family and friends.
If you have your heart set on a particular officiate or vendor, book them as soon as you can, as his or her calendar will probably fill up fast.
Talk to your minister or officiate about personalizing the service and discuss any restrictions.
Ask potential vendors for the phone numbers of previous customers and then call them for references.
Consider hiring professional vendors, rather than friends or family, to avoid awkwardness should something not go as planned.
Before signing vendor contracts, read the fine print making sure that the fees, date, times, location, services, and any hidden fees are included.
Reserve your venues as soon as possible after the engagement announcement to hold the date you want. If you have been dreaming about that certain place, act quickly.
When researching venues, consider guests who are in wheelchairs, with seeing or hearing impairments, or have dietary restrictions. Think of ways to prepare for their safety and comfort.
Before you put down a security deposit on a venue, check the written cancellation and refund policies.
Inquire whether the reception site has its own caterer that you must use or if you can bring in your own.
Ask your minister or officiate if there are any venue regulations regarding using your own decorations, writing your own vows, or performing certain traditions.
Before interviewing recommended individuals, gather photography samples of the style you want to help you explain your vision.
Look at the photographer’s portfolio and ask about their experience and why they like shooting weddings.
Know your photography budget and be familiar with the type of package you would like to order (digital, prints, both, etc.).
Request that the photographer’s contract clearly detail the list of inclusions, such as: costs, packages, additional print costs, hours to shoot, overtime fees, as well as proofing and ordering process.
Before you decide on the meal style, consider these important factors: catering budget, anticipated number of guests, reception time, as well as the season and formality of your wedding.
Inquire about the caterer’s specialty dishes and the cost variations within meal styles.
Look through the caterer’s portfolio, then request an in-person food presentation and taste test.
Communicate any allergies and dietary restrictions, including cultural or religious, to the caterer as soon as possible.
Make sure to inform the baker of any allergies you or your guests may have.
Look through the baker’s portfolio and ask to taste samples to ensure it is as scrumptious as it is statuesque.
Personalize the cake by decorating it with heirloom linens or items that have special cultural/traditional meaning.
Make sure you have the specifics about the reception room, flowers, colors scheme, formality and guest count to give to your baker.
Ask your wedding attendants if they have allergies to any flowers so you can communicate that to your florist.
Give the florist access to your overall vision through photos and color/fabric swatches.
Ask to see photos of the florist’s previous weddings to get an idea of their style.
Allow your florist to make flower recommendations reflective of not only your vision but also of color and seasonal availability.
Before you book the DJ or musician(s), ask them about their style, how they interact with guests, and how many breaks they take.
Request to see a live performance and/or video clips of past receptions.
Compile a "play" list as well as a "do not" play list for your musicians so they are aware of the music you want played.
Choose a car or limo service that owns the cars and whose specialty is weddings.
Always ask to inspect the car that you want to rent for cleanliness and excellent condition.
Make sure the contract states everything you are expecting: fees, driver, tipping, inclusions, coverage rates, and the make/model of the car.
If your wedding date is more flexible than your budget, contact vendors for special discounted rates for getting married on a Friday, Sunday, or in the least popular months.
When configuring your wedding budget, consider these likely additional costs: taxes, permits, shipping and handling, etc.
Track expenses and stay on-budget by saving and logging all receipts. (Try our free Wedding Budget Guide to help track your spending.)
As you start planning hotel accommodations for out-of-town guests, reserve a block of hotel rooms. Guests will appreciate the convenience, and the hotel may offer you a discount on the rooms.
Welcome out-of-town guests by giving them a "glad you’re here" bag full of goodies and inviting them to a fun get-together activity of your choosing.
Give guests multiple ways to access accommodation details (e.g., invitation, wedding website) to ensure reserving is easy, convenient, and timely.
Remember to include meals for the other wedding professionals at your reception, and ask if your caterer offers special pricing for their meals.
Create ambiance with lighting at your reception using lanterns, votive candles, or string lights.
Renting or borrowing accessories like lighting, tables, linens, and tableware can often save you additional money.
If you order anything online (e.g., tablecloths for the reception hall), check immediately to ensure that what you received is exactly what you had ordered.
Facilitate the gift ordering process for out-of-town guests by registering for wedding gifts at nationally recognized stores and/or online retailers.
Consider creating an online wedding registry to make it convenient for guests to view your registry, purchase gifts, and have them shipped directly to you.
Supplement your registry with gifts that are meaningful and unique to you as a couple (yet still wedding appropriate). From hiking gear to photography equipment, choose gifts that will bring you closer together as a couple.
Writing your own vows is a unique way to personalize your commitment to one another and give family and friends a heartfelt glimpse into the enduring love you have for each other. For inspiration, read these tips on DIY wedding vows.
Before deciding whether to write your own vows, look into any cultural or religious restrictions, and make sure to clear it with your officiant.
If you want to write personal vows but are nervous or shy, consider co-writing a simple, yet touching vow that the both of you can recite.
When writing your own wedding vows, add warm, sensitive, and even humorous components to describe the life you are about to embark upon.
Design your own wedding website (or use a free service) to introduce your fiancé(e), share your love story, showcase engagement photos, and introduce your wedding party.
Wedding websites are also a great way to inform guests about travel arrangements, hotel accommodations, and gift registries.
Use an online wedding planner to communicate with both guests and your wedding party. Post details for showers, fittings, schedules, as well as links for travel and gift registries.
before your wedding
When choosing your wedding date, consider vacation times, holidays or other special occasions that might prohibit your guests from being able to attend.
If you have your heart set on a particular venue, be flexible on your wedding date and wait to set the day until after you have contacted them for availability.
Choose your bridesmaids and groomsmen as soon as possible after the engagement announcement to give them ample time to prepare for their responsibilities.
As you start to think about how to personalize your wedding, consider incorporating familial, cultural or religious traditions that are very important to you, your fiancé(e) and close family members.
Put your ideas onto a story or inspiration board that unites your wedding dreams and encompasses style, colors and theme. Your story board will give you a tangible expression of your dreams.
Create a checklist to help you organize and keep track of important wedding decisions and tasks (try our free Wedding Planning Checklist).
As soon as you’ve finalized your wedding date, design, order and send out your personalized Save the Date to guests as a fun and practical reminder for them to reserve your wedding day.
Establish a sense of balance throughout the entire wedding planning period by regularly going out on “planning-free” dates with your fiancé(e).
before your wedding
Divide your guest list into manageable parts with categorized headings, i.e. must be invited, would like to be invited.
Give a deadline to family on both sides to send you their complete guest lists. It should include full names, titles, relationships and addresses.
If you’re planning on having your wedding digitally recorded, ask the potential videographer if you can view examples of their wedding footage to help you determine if their style is an appropriate match with your own style.
If you haven’t sent your Save the Dates yet, now is the time to make it a priority. Guests will appreciate the advance notice for making work, travel and hotel arrangements, and you will appreciate having everyone there to celebrate your love.
Maintain balance and perspective during your wedding planning time. Remind yourselves that the marriage is what is most important.
If you’re having a military wedding, consult the resources at your service branch for protocol, etiquette and other regulations.
before your wedding
Visit online social networks and message boards to get insight and advice from other brides going through the planning process.
Begin researching the marriage license requirements in your state by contacting your county clerk via telephone, mail, or by looking on their website.
If you’re getting married outside of your home country, check the legal necessities of that country, as each has different requirements.
When finalizing your guest list, invite 10-20% additional guests in case of regrets, but make sure your venue can accommodate the additional guests if everyone accepts.
Keep samples of decorations, invitations, color swatches and patterns to coordinate the accessories of your entire wedding.
If you are planning a honeymoon that will require traveling by plane – especially out of the country – order tickets with your maiden name, as your married name will not match your identification.
There’s still time to send out your Save the Dates to guests (if you haven’t already). Make sure everyone is able to make it to your Big Day by giving guests the gift of time to plan and prepare.
Begin researching Wedding Invitation designs, sizes, and folds. Order free samples of your favorites—personalized in your colors—so you can get a feel for the quality and colors.
Ask yourself how much time you are spending on “wedding planning” vs. “marriage planning.” Remember: the wedding is one day, but the marriage is forever.
before your wedding
Start scheduling times to meet with your officiate so they are able to get a feel for your personalities and incorporate that into the ceremony.
If you plan to wear heirloom jewelry, veil or dress, allow plenty of time for restoration, cleaning and alterations.
As you start ordering Wedding Favors and Reception Items , try to negotiate shipping costs for delivery items that you can pick up yourself.
Begin looking into the requirements for officially changing your name: driver’s license, insurances, social security, employment records, etc.
Ask your caterer for a schedule of when the course(s) are being served so that you can start planning for the other events (e.g., toasting, music, first dance).
Work with the caterer on incorporating your wedding colors or wedding theme into the presentation of the meal.
Laughter is good medicine. Be sure to find humor and laugh whenever you can during the planning process.
before your wedding
Update your gift registries periodically to make sure there are enough items in all of the price ranges for your guests to choose from.
Organize ahead of time and delegate tasks to loved ones, friends or professionals on your wedding day so that you can focus on being relaxed and calm.
When applying for your marriage license, remember to bring along your blood test results, if applicable, and identification.
Start personalizing your Wedding Programs early, then fill it in piece by piece as you finalize all your ceremony details. You–ll save yourself the last-minute stress of designing it all in one sitting.
Finalize your honeymoon plans with your travel agent. Arrange for necessary transportation to and from the airport.
Exercise is a great stress-reliever. As tasks and to-dos pile up, work out to release tension and keep your body in wedding shape!
before your wedding
Update your wedding registries, as many guests tend to wait until now to buy their gifts.
Break in your new wedding shoes and practice walking around in them so you feel comfortable and relaxed when you walk down the aisle.
Call the guests who did not return an RSVP to see if they are attending and give final numbers to the caterer.
Arrange for someone to take care of any additional tasks at the reception, e.g., filling water vases, lighting candles.
Secure a microphone for toasting if your reception room is large and you think that guests might not be able to hear.
Along with your wedding coordinator or personal attendant, make a list of things that need to be checked on the day of the wedding and check it several times.
As your wedding nears, remember to take good care of yourself physically and mentally. Give yourself plenty of rest and proper nutrition. Set aside time for relaxing and fun activities unrelated to wedding planning.
before your wedding
Call to confirm wedding day appointments (nails, hair, makeup, etc.) to ensure that nothing is amiss.
Delegate someone for wedding day delivery of gratuities to those whose services are not built into the contract: i.e. wait staff, bartender, delivery persons.
If you are having an outdoor wedding, review your plan for inclement weather.
Put together an emergency kit for the wedding day. Kits can include anything you may need: pins, stockings, deodorant, tape, etc.
Give your photographer a list of those you especially want photographed: out-of-town guests, elderly relatives, etc.
If you want photos taken with extended family, make sure to tell every person what time to arrive, as they will not know unless they are told.
Pick up some water and non-messy snacks for the wedding party to snack on between preparations, pictures, etc. on the wedding day.
Lay out your wedding gown and accessories to make sure everything is pressed and accounted for.
Assign someone to pick up and return the groom’s tuxedo the day after the wedding.
Keep your vendors and attendants informed and organized at the reception by creating and printing out a timeline for cake cutting, meal course times, toasting, and music/dance.
Don’t be afraid to delegate last-minute tasks to close members of your wedding party. Chances are they will be more than happy to help so that you can enjoy these last days leading up to your wedding.
before your wedding
Remind the groomsmen to try on every piece of their tuxedo the night before the wedding, while there is still time to solve problems.
Pamper yourself, your maid of honor and your mother the day before the wedding with manicures, pedicures and special bonding.
Double-check the venues before the wedding day to see if there are any last minute site restrictions, road construction, detours or any other unforeseen obstacles.
Leave your flight information, hotel numbers and honeymoon itinerary with your family and even close friends.
Have a printed map handy and ready to give to your driver in the unlikely event they did not previously receive directions to your venues.
Get to bed reasonably early on the night before your wedding, as you will need your energy!
Take a deep breath and smile: You’re about to marry the love of your life! Make a personal vow to let go of any worries and bask in the pure joy that tomorrow will bring.
Send your fiancé(e) a love letter the morning of the wedding.
Eat a healthy and full breakfast. It may be the only meal you get to finish all day.
Ask your personal attendant to carry your favorite color of lip gloss or a tinted lip balm to make sure your lips don't dry out during the celebration.
Appoint someone or request your wedding coordinator to make a final sweep of both the ladies’ and men's dressing rooms before leaving the ceremony site for anything left behind.
Relax and enjoy every minute! Remember that this day is more than a wedding – it is a celebration of your love and the start of a wonderful life journey together.
after your wedding
Welcome to happily ever after! Take time to enjoy settling in as newlyweds.
As you open your gifts together, take time to read what your family and friends have written on their cards. Design or buy a card box or booklet to preserve their words of wisdom and love so that you can refer to it throughout your marriage.
Take detailed notes of each gift so that you can easily personalize your Thank You Cards later.
Success in marriage does not come merely through finding the right mate, but through being the right mate.
~Barnett R. Brickner
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