Addressing & Mailing
Wedding Invitations
Imagine ... your wedding envelope standing out like a diamond in the sand among the other pieces in the pile.
Casting all other mail aside, your addressee will pore over the contents and pay attention to the details.
Both pretty and practical, Wedding Envelopes must do the heavy lifting of communicating who’s invited (and who isn’t).
Although the rules of etiquette have changed, there are conventions worth keeping. The most important guideline is to respect how your guests would like to be addressed.
SINGLE ENVELOPES ARE IN
Double envelopes are no longer the standard tradition these days. Not only a cost saver, using just a single outer envelope is also environmentally friendly! Put the solo outer envelope to work by listing the names of every person invited to the wedding. Avoid writing "and Family," which is vague and could mean extra unexpected guests showing up at the wedding.
Use the below examples as inspiration as you address your solo outer envelopes.
Couples
Married
Mr. and Mrs. Lee Burke formal
Mr. Lee and Mrs. Jane Burke
Lee and Jane Burke contemporary
Married (wife kept maiden name)
Mrs. Jane Smith and Mr. Lee Burke formal
Jane Smith and Lee Burke contemporary
Married (wife has hyphenated name)
Mrs. Jane Smith-Burke and Mr. Lee Burke formal
Jane Smith-Burke and Lee Burke contemporary
Unmarried (living together)
Ms. Katherine Jones formal
Mr. Scott Janzen
Ms. Katherine Jones and Mr. Scott Janzen contemporary
Unmarried (not living together)
Ms. Katherine Jones formal
Mr. Scott Janzen
contemporary
Ms. Katherine Jones and Mr. Scott Janzen
Good to know
When last names are different, the woman‘s name is written first.
The word “and” implies marriage.
For unmarried couples not living together, consider sending 2
invitations.
Single Guests
Male
Mr. John Silversformal
John Silverscontemporary
Female
Miss Lisa Kubel formal
Ms. Lisa Kubelcontemporary
Lisa Kubel contemporary
With a date or “plus one”
Lisa Kubel and Guest contemporary
Divorced (if still using married name)
Ms. Holly Silvers formal
Holly Silvers contemporary
Widowed
Mrs. John Stone formal
Mrs. Daisy Stone less formal
Daisy Stone contemporary
Tip
With divorced and widowed guests, check to see if they are still using their married names.
Children
Under 18
John and Lisa Thompson contemporary
and Family
John and Lisa Thompson contemporary
Anna, Tanner and Josiah oldest listed first
Over 18 (may receive their own invitation)
Mr. Tanner Thompson
Miss Anna Thompson
Good to know
Having an Adults Only wedding? Consider using a double envelope set to confirm just who is invited (and by omission, who isn’t).
If children are not invited, do not include their names anywhere on the envelope.
Example
Outer Envelope
Mr. and Mrs. John and Lisa Thompson
Inner Envelope
Uncle John and Aunt Lisa
Anna, Tanner, Josiah oldest listed first
Professional Titles
Doctor
Dr. Sarah Mitchell and Mr. Jacob Mitchell
Doctor Jacob Mitchell and Mrs. Sarah Mitchell
Doctor and Mrs. Jacob Mitchell
Professor
Professor Sarah Mitchell and Mr. Jacob Mitchell
Professor Jacob Mitchell and Mrs. Mitchell
Professor and Mrs. Jacob Mitchell
Elected Official
The Honorable and Mrs. Jacob Mitchell
Judge and Mrs. Mitchell
Judge Sarah Mitchell and Mr. Jacob Mitchell
The Honorable Mayor Sarah Mitchell and Mr. Jacob Mitchell
Attorney
Mr. Jacob Mitchell, Esquire and Mrs. Sarah Mitchell
Clergy
Father and Mrs. Jacob Mitchell
The Reverend Jacob Mitchell
Rabbi and Mrs. Jacob Mitchell
Pastor Sarah Mitchell and Mr. Jacob Mitchell
Sister Sarah Mitchell
Both Have Professional Titles
Doctor Jacob Mitchell and Professor Sarah Mitchell
The Doctors Mitchell
The Doctors Jacob and Sarah Mitchell
Good to know
Who’s who? Professional titles come before social titles (i.e. Mr. Ms. Mrs.). If wife is the doctor and husband is not, she is listed first.
Military
Commissioned Officer
Lieutenant Joel Larson and Mrs. Larson
Colonel and Mrs. Joel Larson
Major and Mrs. Joel Larson
Lieutenant Robin Larson and Mr. Joel Larson
Both are Officers
The Captains Larson
Colonel Joel Larson and Lieutenant Robin Larson
Tip: Officer with the higher rank is always listed first.
Non-commissioned officer or enlisted personnel
Mr. and Mrs. Joel Larson
Mr. and Mrs. Joel and Robin Larson
Tip: Only use military titles for officers on wedding envelopes. Enlisted personnel such as: Private, Specialist, Corporal, Seaman, or Airman should not have their rank on the envelope.
Good to know
Wedding invitations are social correspondence and do not require naming the branch. Check with specific branch for specific protocol.
Return Address
Using the same basic etiquette, the Return Address is typically printed on the back flap of the wedding envelope and corresponds with the address on the RSVP Postcard or Envelope.
The Return Address may be printed directly onto the envelope or an Address Label.
Did you know that Truly Engaging offers Return Address Printing on Envelopes and Labels?
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